27 Years of Wedded Bliss

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There have been plenty of moments these past two weeks to think back a bit.

Matt & Alicia got married so it was a chance to contemplate our wedding, and it dovetailed straight into our wedding anniversary.

In the days leading up to that day so long ago I was listening to ‘Real World’ by Springsteen because he sang:

‘Ain’t no church bells ringing, there aren’t no flags unfurled, just you, me and the love we’re bringing into the real world.’

Bruce was coming off a failed marriage and was entering a second marriage. He was contemplating what it takes to make it work and he wasn’t pulling any punches.

‘Year gone past feels like one long day’ and ‘I built a roadside carnival out of hurt and self-pity.’

Wasn’t playing.

Was thinking that the days ahead wouldn’t always be about wine and roses but he was convinced they were ready for the fight that it takes to make it in the real world.

It was the 2nd song we played at our wedding reception (the first dozen songs were Bruce) and I’ve thought a lot about that song lately.

A long marriage isn’t because of luck.

It takes effort and patience and it demands a willingness to shut up now and again, and speak up here and there.

Life makes us respond to grief.

Not easy to make those steps in perfect harmony.

We get tired.

Our bodies betray us…

…and here we are.

Still standing.

Happy Anniversary to my beautiful wife.

We had dinner and watched a few shows….

…which counts as a grand old time these days.

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